Geani - growing up
Tuesday, May 16, 2006
The ART of BEING YOU
…a post written at the end of March :). Sometimes it takes time to actually post it…
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Yes, I know, another basic and simple subject to talk about. I noticed that this is how I feel every time when I talk about some subject here. That the subject actually is something really simple and maybe basic and stupid/childish for many people. Now, when I look at my former postings I think I started at least half of them with this affirmation…:):):). Funny, ha?
Yep, every time I discover something about myself I also discover that it can be summarized in simple words and it seems an obvious thing to do.
Let’s take for example what I re-learned in the last weeks about me, and maybe – a little bit pompous said – about life: it’s very hard to be yourself. Ok, ok – I know who I am and what I stand for, I know what is my core self and all that stuff – but am I able to act “upon” myself every day?
…oh, yes…I feel and think it is a true ART to be able to BE YOURSELF…
Firstly is difficult to remain true to yourself if society/ friends/ people around you appreciate and praise something else.
Secondly, if you manage to remain true to your beliefs, to be the natural you how do you make sure that this is not:
A. hurting someone or even
B. interpreted as being bad/ judged by the others.
Taking the first “hard thing to do” – being you when society recognizes and appreciates something else maybe you’ll say that is a question of being natural. Well, I agree. On the other side, Maslow says in one of his theories – Maslow Pyramid that one of the needs that we have is the "the need of recognition” or something similar to this. This makes some people act in such a way that they will be praised all the time. Even if actually those ways of doing things are not “their own”. I don’t know if you ever did that, but I made this mistake: i acted different than who I am. But I stopped. It was not me.
So I decided that as long as I don’t do bad things I should just be myself even if other like it or not. Maybe “the society” in which you live asks something else than your talents. Than…change “the society” and find one that “suits you” or try to show to those with whom you are your true face. Maybe they’ll like it even more than the other common things.
Just don’t betray yourself. It’s hurtful, confusing…without any purpose.
Now, going further, if you manage to “resist” to the demands of the outside world that may transform you in other person – how do you make sure that people around you are not hurt by your way of being or judge you. The last part with judgement is somehow in the same category with “resistance to society” – only that you have to see the bad parts also. It is again necessary to be very strong as a person and to understand how actually nobody is allowed to judge anybody. Because each of us has its own reality, background, education, needs that make us act…so we start from the beginning on different levels. Nobody can judge because nobody truly and fully understands you. I think in the “personal life” where you deal with feelings is not a matter of right or wrong as long as is not against GOOD.
Is more difficult to make sure that being yourself, you don’t hurt anybody else. For example….let’s talk about ME. Hahahaha :):):):) Why not? Is always cool to talk about you :):):).
I was saying above that in the personal life I think someone cannot impose his/her opinion. Ok, on the other side, when I am in the office I’ve been told that I act in a totally different way: I tend to impose my point of view. Because, I believe that most often in the office you work with facts and information and you have to take the best decision. Is about intellect not about feelings. But it seems that is just my opinion…because THE WAY I AM HURTS THE OTHER people involved.
All the above make me think that it must be A TRUE ART TO BE YOURSELF. First to have the maturity and will to discover who you are, and the to use that wisely so it becomes truly significant for you and the others instead of bringing negative things to the world.
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Yes, I know, another basic and simple subject to talk about. I noticed that this is how I feel every time when I talk about some subject here. That the subject actually is something really simple and maybe basic and stupid/childish for many people. Now, when I look at my former postings I think I started at least half of them with this affirmation…:):):). Funny, ha?
Yep, every time I discover something about myself I also discover that it can be summarized in simple words and it seems an obvious thing to do.
Let’s take for example what I re-learned in the last weeks about me, and maybe – a little bit pompous said – about life: it’s very hard to be yourself. Ok, ok – I know who I am and what I stand for, I know what is my core self and all that stuff – but am I able to act “upon” myself every day?
…oh, yes…I feel and think it is a true ART to be able to BE YOURSELF…
Firstly is difficult to remain true to yourself if society/ friends/ people around you appreciate and praise something else.
Secondly, if you manage to remain true to your beliefs, to be the natural you how do you make sure that this is not:
A. hurting someone or even
B. interpreted as being bad/ judged by the others.
Taking the first “hard thing to do” – being you when society recognizes and appreciates something else maybe you’ll say that is a question of being natural. Well, I agree. On the other side, Maslow says in one of his theories – Maslow Pyramid that one of the needs that we have is the "the need of recognition” or something similar to this. This makes some people act in such a way that they will be praised all the time. Even if actually those ways of doing things are not “their own”. I don’t know if you ever did that, but I made this mistake: i acted different than who I am. But I stopped. It was not me.
So I decided that as long as I don’t do bad things I should just be myself even if other like it or not. Maybe “the society” in which you live asks something else than your talents. Than…change “the society” and find one that “suits you” or try to show to those with whom you are your true face. Maybe they’ll like it even more than the other common things.
Just don’t betray yourself. It’s hurtful, confusing…without any purpose.
Now, going further, if you manage to “resist” to the demands of the outside world that may transform you in other person – how do you make sure that people around you are not hurt by your way of being or judge you. The last part with judgement is somehow in the same category with “resistance to society” – only that you have to see the bad parts also. It is again necessary to be very strong as a person and to understand how actually nobody is allowed to judge anybody. Because each of us has its own reality, background, education, needs that make us act…so we start from the beginning on different levels. Nobody can judge because nobody truly and fully understands you. I think in the “personal life” where you deal with feelings is not a matter of right or wrong as long as is not against GOOD.
Is more difficult to make sure that being yourself, you don’t hurt anybody else. For example….let’s talk about ME. Hahahaha :):):):) Why not? Is always cool to talk about you :):):).
I was saying above that in the personal life I think someone cannot impose his/her opinion. Ok, on the other side, when I am in the office I’ve been told that I act in a totally different way: I tend to impose my point of view. Because, I believe that most often in the office you work with facts and information and you have to take the best decision. Is about intellect not about feelings. But it seems that is just my opinion…because THE WAY I AM HURTS THE OTHER people involved.
All the above make me think that it must be A TRUE ART TO BE YOURSELF. First to have the maturity and will to discover who you are, and the to use that wisely so it becomes truly significant for you and the others instead of bringing negative things to the world.
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