Geani - growing up
Thursday, June 29, 2006
The theory of Mind, Soul and Instinct
Some weeks ago, on my trip back home I discovered a new theory. :):) Yes, yes, laugh how much you want…after all, they are my theories. Even if somebody else discovered them before, I cannot believe until I “discover” the theories on my own. Right?
OK, so for at least a year I was thinking of me and the people around me from 2 perspectives: soul/feelings and mind/reason. I even remember having several discussions with my closest friends about how you can easily control and understand your reason, but you can hardly control and understand your soul. And how the successes on the emotional/personal level are so much more valuable for me because there are so much harder to obtain and to keep. How most of the times the words don’t help you but actually makes it harder to transmit what you feel…
Anyway, as I sad this theory with 2 parts of the human being it’s a bit wrong. Because there are actually three parts as I said in the title: reason, soul and instinct. And, as the soul is less known and controlled by us, so is instinct from my point of view. OK, most of the times reason wins over instinct…but you are not conscious about it. You just act as the society, education or...I don't know what constraints you to do.
Cool, and what it’s with these 3 dimensions of the human being then? Well, I have two main points to make about them:
1. In order to “grow up” you need to understand yourself in all three dimensions. To understand your soul, mind and instincts, how do they lead you in the decisions, what they “tell” you all the time? To learn to listen to each of them and all of them.
2. To be in equilibrium I think you have to use all three dimensions in your everyday life, to put them to consensus. Generally if one of them would “disagree” about one of your actions ask why, dig deep on the reasons, listen. Maybe you should not take that decision. And the simplest example that comes into my mind :))))) - you will laugh is: cheating on your partner.
Don’t ask me how I chose this example. I think it’s actually how I developed the theory in the first place. :)))) So: let’s say that you want to cheat on your boyfriend/girlfriend, because you meet a super attractive person. The instinct tells you to do it, to sleep with that person. Then, the question is what the soul and the mind say. If you are truly in love with your partner your soul should tell you not to do it. And if you are not in love then at least your reason should tell you not to do it because is not moral, or because it will create a lot of future problems, or something :)).
The ideal case would be to use all your 3 “beings” at least for the important decisions in life. To get to understand them, to listen to them.
….but hmm, you wanna know if I manage to use them? Well the truth is that I don’t know myself that well in order to hear my instinct especially. I think with the soul I’m pretty ok, and still have work to do with the reason because I seem to be too analytical in order to choose between the multitude of options opened. So, I know them, I listen to them but I’m not fully able to put them to consensus.
Of course there are some books involved in this creation process of mine. It would be nice to remember all of them but I can’t. I can tell you about one: "Authentic : How to Make a Living By Being Yourself" by Neil Crofts. The book is actually about something else, I didn’t like it that much ( I just found some interesting things about education there) but it just triggered my mind as reading usually does for me…
As about what happens in my life now…just look at the post I put before from Alexi Murdoch. His words are much better than mine…and I’m still there – with those feelings.
OK, so for at least a year I was thinking of me and the people around me from 2 perspectives: soul/feelings and mind/reason. I even remember having several discussions with my closest friends about how you can easily control and understand your reason, but you can hardly control and understand your soul. And how the successes on the emotional/personal level are so much more valuable for me because there are so much harder to obtain and to keep. How most of the times the words don’t help you but actually makes it harder to transmit what you feel…
Anyway, as I sad this theory with 2 parts of the human being it’s a bit wrong. Because there are actually three parts as I said in the title: reason, soul and instinct. And, as the soul is less known and controlled by us, so is instinct from my point of view. OK, most of the times reason wins over instinct…but you are not conscious about it. You just act as the society, education or...I don't know what constraints you to do.
Cool, and what it’s with these 3 dimensions of the human being then? Well, I have two main points to make about them:
1. In order to “grow up” you need to understand yourself in all three dimensions. To understand your soul, mind and instincts, how do they lead you in the decisions, what they “tell” you all the time? To learn to listen to each of them and all of them.
2. To be in equilibrium I think you have to use all three dimensions in your everyday life, to put them to consensus. Generally if one of them would “disagree” about one of your actions ask why, dig deep on the reasons, listen. Maybe you should not take that decision. And the simplest example that comes into my mind :))))) - you will laugh is: cheating on your partner.
Don’t ask me how I chose this example. I think it’s actually how I developed the theory in the first place. :)))) So: let’s say that you want to cheat on your boyfriend/girlfriend, because you meet a super attractive person. The instinct tells you to do it, to sleep with that person. Then, the question is what the soul and the mind say. If you are truly in love with your partner your soul should tell you not to do it. And if you are not in love then at least your reason should tell you not to do it because is not moral, or because it will create a lot of future problems, or something :)).
The ideal case would be to use all your 3 “beings” at least for the important decisions in life. To get to understand them, to listen to them.
….but hmm, you wanna know if I manage to use them? Well the truth is that I don’t know myself that well in order to hear my instinct especially. I think with the soul I’m pretty ok, and still have work to do with the reason because I seem to be too analytical in order to choose between the multitude of options opened. So, I know them, I listen to them but I’m not fully able to put them to consensus.
Of course there are some books involved in this creation process of mine. It would be nice to remember all of them but I can’t. I can tell you about one: "Authentic : How to Make a Living By Being Yourself" by Neil Crofts. The book is actually about something else, I didn’t like it that much ( I just found some interesting things about education there) but it just triggered my mind as reading usually does for me…
As about what happens in my life now…just look at the post I put before from Alexi Murdoch. His words are much better than mine…and I’m still there – with those feelings.
posted by Geani, 11:38 PM
